mutual erotic spanking
The other thing we seem to be wondering about is that both of us want to be spanked, probably both subs I guess ..I read the part about switching but because we have no experience we don't know the interesting phrases or words that might increase the setting/scene etc If we wanted to take the dom role, **We don't know the words a dom would use** so cant take the part if you know what I mean.
Wish you had some help with how to set the scene as a dom for a newbie. Are there any guides/info etc or stories or scenarios where the spanker isn't a dom but just wanting to please... what kind of verbiage or scene setting would be good for that? Any suggestions would be most appreciated .
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Hello ,
Erotic spankings can be the best of all , because of the way in which pleasure and pain is mixed with a degree of erotic stimulation . Do not become too " Erotic " as you may become distracted from learning about spanking !
The following links should put you into information overload :
Wife-Discipline and Spanking ( Discussion )
Sensual Spanking
( " A wonderful guide to erotic spanking . " )
Regards ,
Spankoz
( From : FEMALES IN CONTROL.COM
)Dear Aunt Vera ,
Hello, my name is Eric, and thanks for the wonderful website! I wish there
were more like yours that are so informative and thoughtful in scope and
presentation. Anyway, my question:
My wife and I are both late 30s, advanced degreed professionals, and She
has been the assertive head of the household almost since we married- 11
yrs ago. Which is fine and as it should be, of course. The thing is,
we arrived at this situation by a natural process of 'trial and error',
discovering WHO was better suited to handle WHAT. My dilemma is, any
suggestions about her exercising her authority, that is disciplining me
(when I admittedly need it), are met with almost utter revulsion. I'm
confused here. My wife IS the
assertive leader, I AM the obedient follower. But she doesn't want
to acknowledge this. Any ideas on how I might open the communication
lines with her about this?
Finally, I am not trying to make a sex fantasy of this - really! But I am
well aware that her giving me an occasional sound spanking would be good
for the BOTH of us. This only seems natural and entirely healthy,
and I DO want her to know how I feel. ANY ideas at all will be
greatly appreciated.
Many thanks, Eric
When looking at spankings what your wife may at first see
is the apparent violence but if she would allow herself to look at the
whole process closely, I am sure she would change her mind. In this day
and age of political correctness the total misunderstanding of the essence
of spankings is not surprising. Spankings can be very erotic and
sensuous as there is nothing as sexy as a warm hand on a nice derrière.
But first and foremost please let me say that there is much
therapeutic value to spankings. Spankings can be a great way to dissipate
a lot of bad energy. What I mean by this is I have noticed , in my
Significant Other , that when he gets a little crazy , temperamental and
out of sorts there is nothing like a good spanking to help him come out of
his bad moods. After a good spanking he glows and I noticed that it was
like a release of the bad pent up energy that he could not deal with
directly. Sometimes spanking him helps me deal with my occasional
displeasure with him. In both cases the spankings was good for both of us.
I view spanking him as a necessary process where I help him to deal with
something that he can not do for himself easily. After the spanking we are
closer, more loving and happier. Tell your wife that sometime a process
that causes some small physical pain can be great for the psyche. Talk to
her and start slow. I would also suggest that she experience a mild
spanking herself. Start very lightly, with your hand only. Maybe if she
sees that spanking is not a horrid violence then she might take up the
torch and enjoy the wonderful world of spankings with you as the happy
recipient!!
Aunt Vera
