SPANKOZ PLAN FOR SPANKING PARTNERS
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This Plan is being evolved , in part , as an update of the SPENCER SPANKING PLAN , which is now 70 years old . There are some conceptual differences in the way in which we have approached our plan . We have therefore chosen a new title but still freely acknowledge the debt that is owed to Dr. Spencer .
These Plans are for couples , if you are looking for someone to partner you in a plan , well your first task is to find him / her . ( Even Mrs Beeton's famous chicken recipe starts of with " First catch your chicken " . )
What follows is a discussion paper and we would appreciate any and all comments :
In the early 1900's American society acted as a catalyst for social change in many ways which have impacted upon the rest of the world . Half a centaury before a Civil War had been fought over slavery (more economic than human rights issues were involved , but that is not our subject ) . The next group to be " freed " were women , this was when , amongst other changes , the right to vote was won .
At this time corporal punishment was in wide use both by the State and in the home . It may also be said that not much notice was taken of it and that it could be quite severe by today's standards . Wife beating was generally an accepted practice ( if you were a child , well anyone could beat you ) .
It was against this background that the Spencer Spanking Plan was conceived . Dr. Spencer established a set of written rules that would resolve marital differences by the " guilty " party being spanked by their spouse for committing previously agreed to offences . Request spankings were provided for and provision for the punishment of single girls was also made .
The plan equalised the punishment by allowing the man to use only his hand with the women across his lap ( which limits the force of the spanking ) and requiring that the woman was to use certain implements with the man lying face down . There were restrictions such as not breaking the skin , but crying was allowed .
Since mentioning the Spencer plan and our motto of " Sexual Equality Through Spanking " on our Home Page , we have received numerous comments and suggestions . As a result of these Spankoz has decided to produce this page which will lead to the Spankoz plan .
The Spankoz Plan For Spanking Partners is for any two people who wish to use spanking as a way of punishment to change behaviour or as a form of adult recreation . The important principles are equality and consent . Why "Partners " ? Because many individuals do not have a spouse or partner who is prepared to enter into an agreement such as this . It is important to note that neither plan directly involves sexual activities with spanking ones .
The Spankoz plan enlarges on the equality of the Spencer plan by allowing for the method of spanking to be changed , together with a number of additional variations to meet the needs of the moment . Many women can take a spanking as well as any man and this should be taken into account when entering into an agreement .
Several versions of the Spencer plan , which we have seen , are unclear as to the situations in which a reverse spanking is to be given . The reverse or " turnaround " spanking is an important provision as it acts as a restraint upon one partner excessively spanking the other . It should be given as soon as possible after the first spanking . ( A short cooling off period may be a good idea if the first recipient thinks that they did not deserve the initial spanking ) . The Spankoz plan requires a reverse spanking only when the original spanking was given for a reason that was not clearly agreed to in the written agreement . This is designed to stop both "wife beating " and the excesses of some " femdoms " .
There is some concern about punishment and non punishment spanking being covered in the one plan . The way which is being looked at is to make a list , which may be detailed or general , of what is to happen in each case . Example , if one plan participant comes home say 30 minutes late this may result in 2 minutes over the knee or " six of the best " with the cane . "Darling , I need spanking " may mean a light session before bed or hairbrush and tears on the spot . This freedom of choice is important if the plan is to work for everyone . The method of delivering the spanking and the setting , including the degree of scolding , if required ,can be set out to suit each partner .
If there is still a problem with punishment spankings , why not set aside one area and method for them ( eg. use a special paddle and the kitchen table on these occasions ) . If you are on the receiving end , remember that you have agreed to being spanked and the person doing it is doing it for you and that they are allowed to enjoy doing it . Fix in your mind the reason for your punishment . Imagine that a machine is spanking you so you do not feel resentment . Other punishment methods may also be included , such as fines < which may be used to purchase Spankoz products ! > .
Our plan suggests that partners start off with a across the lap hand spanking ( bare bottom ) and move on from there as previously agreed . This position accentuates the submission and vulnerability of the person being spanked . Being sent to the bedroom to prepare etc. increases the dramatic effect , the plan does not require the recipient to undress beforehand but they are required to provide their bottom unclothed when assuming the spanking position . This spanking can serve to warm up the bottom in preparation for what is to come .
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We also wish to look at occasions where a more severe punishment may be called for , for example when one partner refuses to submit to a spanking under the terms of this plan or exceptional circumstances such as being unfaithful . Are these and like situations ones that should call for a series of spankings ( still maintaining the principle of not engaging in the dispute outside of the spanking session(s) ) . Should a third party be called in in the case of physical incapacity ?
A word for the Ladies !
Spanking can be very cathartic for both parties . Men are particularly fond of enduring physical pain in their devotion to love or in the service of an important cause . For men enduring physical pain can be a powerful symbol of manhood . All the more when that pain is at the request of their love .
For you the act of spanking can be a way to release and direct your anger . The next time that you find that your anger has overwhelmed your love for your husband try pulling down his pants and paddling him on the buttocks, hard , until you can truly forgive his wrong and make love to your husband . Vent your anger against his buttocks until you forget his transgression and feel sorry for him .
....... Lady Misato
The intention of the Spankoz plan is to combine the three previous agreements into one form . We would like to provide an illustrated version for those who can not read .
Again ,your comments on this plan are most welcome .
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To answer some recent questions ,
Yes " Birthday Spankings " will be included and we still need more examples from couples using similar plans !
" Hi, I'm a strict master called Masterakt,
I'm 40 yo and I live in Italy, I'm looking for a new female slave, please write to:
masterakt Thanks, write and send me your pics. " .............. Oh No , not
here please ! Why not try our PERSONALS page ?
" We are a married couple and have been into disciplinary spanking for a year now .
We think that since discipline is what its all about , punitive spanking is a good tool for the partner with good self discipline to enable the partner
lacking discipline to behave as if she/he had less bad habits and was more diligent , and
that is beneficial for everybody.
In our opinion , a relationship with punitive spanking fits best for a couple with highly
different levels of discipline and must therefore be one sided . Counter-spankings would spoil the whole thing . BDSM tendencies can easily be counteracted
when the spankings are kept purely punitive , severe , and strictly non-erotic .
........... Natalie and Harry "
....... Alright , what do visitors think , strictly punishment , erotic or a mixture
? One sided or reciprocal ? Comments please ?
" From: xxxxxx
To: <advice@spankoz.com>
Sent: Tuesday, June 20, 2000 2:07 PM
Subject: New at this
My husband and I are just starting out in our DD relationship. I am the one who initiated
it. I have been spoiled by him for years and I just realized how selfish I have been. It
hasn't been easy getting him to get into this totally, but it is coming. He went from not
spanking two months ago to spanking when I need it most times. The problem I have is that
he doesn't really know what a punishment spanking consists of. And for that matter nether
do I. I know his spankings haven't change my bad behavior. The most he has spanked me in
one sitting is about ten minutes with a hair brush. That is the worse one I got. I did
cry. I have been very bad. I lied to him and I had my children, two teenage daughter
lie to cover for me. I went somewhere he told me I couldn't go and he was out of
town so he doesn't know yet. I know I should tell him, but I don't know how to tell him to punish me for such a bad thing. Its bad enough that I lied
to him, but having my girls lie was really bad. No I wasn't with another man, I am
completely dedicated to my husband and would never cheat on him. I went with some
girlfriends over night to party. How should I handle this when he gets home. I feel very
guilty and I really do want to change my ways.
Thanks xx "
Hello ,
There are three main types of spankings - Punishment , which can be harsh with tears and
almost like an execution , Normal or mainstream which are the most common with some sort
of warmup , a gradual increase in tempo ( you may still end up crying ) and maybe some
repair work ( cream etc ) afterwards and the Erotic , which are designed to stimulate one
or both participants . Some regard Erotic as being in the Normal or Mainstream group
. It may be easier for you to use the terms Punishment and General .
A Punishment spanking may start with a period of waiting " go to the bedroom " ,
" I am going to spank you when I get home " etc . A verbal dressing down may be
given , some can even make the recipient cry before the spanking occurs . A ritual method
and positioning can be used , making the recipient wish that they will just get on with
the spanking . There is no warmup and the spanking starts at full force , generally on the
bare bottom . Tears , promises to be good , pleas to stop and marks should have no effect
, you are spanked until the spanker is satisfied with the punishment . The spanking may
not be with your consent . A period of bare bottom " Corner Time " can follow ,
if you touch or rub you are spanked again . Another lecture can be given . These spankings
should be memorable , even years later . True Punishment spankings , as outlined here ,
are not very common in domestic settings .
You are lucky to have a husband who can satisfactorily spank
you . Since you are still new to this , please look at the FAQ page , it has some tips on how and
where to spank .
As to your latest " Crime " , let him unwind first , get rid of the children for
an hour or two and show him your E-mail and this reply ( you can get the hairbrush as he
reads them ) .
In the longer term , try writing down all the things that have happened between the two of
you that you are unhappy about . Next , let him read and think about them for a while ,
make an appointment to discuss them and once you agree on what took place decide on how
you should be punished . You could get the Mother of All Spankings , which may have to be split over several days .
Once this has happened , take the list and burn it , all of your past baggage is gone . Do
not talk about it again .
For the future , have a look at the Spencer and Spankoz Plan pages . These plans can be
draw up so only one person is spanked for whatever reasons you agree on . Your husband may
decide at some time to also receive and you should be prepared for this .
Just a word of warning , people only change because they want to change and if you have to
be continually spanked to change your behaviour , we would suggest trying something else .
Should you just want to be spanked for no particular reason , ask him to do it for you .
Good luck ! Please let us know how it goes and a final tip is to buy a hot and cold ice
pack .
Regards ,
SPANKOZ AUSTRALIA
P.S.
We hope you do not mind if we use this on the site , it could be of help to others . No
names of course .
THE RESULT
Thanks for your great response, it really helped. Last night I got one on my worst
spankings ever. It wasn't exactly like you said, but a big improvement on his part in
taking an active role in becoming a disciplinarian ............ Thanks again for your input,
X X
We can assist couples who wish to draw up a Spencer or Spankoz style plan . This assistance will take the form of preparing individual plans ( based on drafts provided ) and advice on their implementation , together with ongoing advice for the following three months . Further , but limited , assistance in mediating disputes arising from the plan is available .
Another variation involves a third person doing the spanking .
This service is being provided through our Millennium High School as class 6E . Financial details are on the MEMBERS AREA page .
An Inspirational Quotation !
" The man who said it could not be done should not interrupt the women who is doing it . "
DRAFT SPANKING CONTRACT
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A book which appears to be in keeping with our egalitarian philosophy :
Play Like a Man, Win Like a Woman by Gail Evans
SPECIFIC THINGS A HUSBAND CAN DO TO MAINTAIN AUTHORITY
Do you want to spank or be spanked ?
This page was last updated : Monday, 10 July 2006
