SPANKING SAFEWORDS
The use of safewords in spanking is a matter of personal preference . Their use is highly recommended for first time meetings and parties .
When spanking partners meet for the first time , it is difficult to accurately judge the others wants , needs , ways of expressing themselves , reactions , tolerances etc. . This communication is built up over time . So there is no misunderstanding , partners can agree beforehand on the safewords to be used .
Safewords are of two types , one to slow down or the second type to stop . " Mercy " is the most popular word to slow down . Words to stop generally mean either to have break or to stop the session permanently . Stopping permanently presents the spankee with the dilemma of not being satisfied with the spanking verses the pain of the moment . If the one for stopping is used , the spanker is bound to stop .
Safewords should be easily to say and understand , colours are popular , viz green , yellow and red . Do not use words that may be used in a spanking context e.g. Stop , you are hurting me . ( Some spankees get a thrill out of trying to talk their way out of a spanking or have it's force reduced , it is all part of their game . This type of play is the hardest to judge at the first meeting . )
Just as the spanker is obliged to stop when the word for " stop " is used , the spankee is bound to only use their safeword(s) in earnest . If they flippantly use these words they may ( deservedly ) end up with a harder spanking than they had planned on . It is also on their own head ( and bottom ) if they do not use their safeword(s) as required !
Again , and this is up to personal preference , but keeping up a conversation during the spanking will help to gauge if the spankee is reaching their physical limit and is starting to run out of breath . Similarly , if the conversation becomes disjointed , it is a sign of mental fatigue . ( Another cue is the spankee's body language , especially tenseness and excessive kicking . ) The conversation may be within a role play scenario or a general " How's your Father ? " type .
A proper warm up reduces the need for safewords . Another suggestion is to allow an additional two to half a dozen blows after the stop word is used . Spankee's often remark that these last few are the most memorable from the session . ( This is at the " No , I can't take it anymore stage " and NOT recommended for the first time . )
Perhaps you would like to try your luck at online matchmaking :
( You can try your luck in the general community , or you can use adds such as those above to meet someone who already has some interest in spanking , or both ! )
Join Adult Friend Finder - largest Adult Personals with over 3 million members!
