SPANKING TIPS by SPANKOZ AUSTRALIA ..............................

This page has a few practical spanking tips for novice and experienced spankers . Enjoyment of spanking involves good communication and understanding . This page applies to all " SPANKING " MIXES " .

Spankers need to be able to play the part of a stern disciplinarian etc . to bring their partner's SPANKING FANTASIES to life . Use the right WORDS and PHRASES for the situation . Practice body language including posture ( keep the body erect , hands on hips , finger pointing - see KALI'S LAP SIGNALS , etc. ) and facial expressions ( frowns , stern looks etc. ) . Be able to show emotion ( controlled rage and anger , disappointment , etc . . Be able to deliver a stern lecture .

Hi !

Can you give me any advice or tips on "lecturing" before a spanking ?
I am female, in a hetero relationship, and i am the spanker (mostly).

From what i can gather a lot of men enjoy the "lecturing" part of the punishment. I would like some advice because sometimes i just am not sure if i am rambling on too much, and i would like to make it better for my partner.

Thanking you in advance

A Punishment spanking may start with a period of waiting " go to the bedroom " , " I am going to spank you when I get home " etc . A verbal dressing down may be given , some can even make the recipient cry before the spanking occurs . A ritual method and positioning can be used , making the recipient wish that they would just get on with the spanking . There is no warm up and the spanking starts at full force , generally on the bare bottom . Tears , promises to be good , pleas to stop and marks should have no effect , you are spanked until the spanker is satisfied with the punishment . The spanking may not be with your consent . A period of bare bottom " Corner Time " can follow , if you touch or rub you are spanked again . Another lecture can be given . These spankings should be memorable , even years later . True Punishment spankings , as outlined here , are not very common in domestic settings . See Domestic Discipline in Relationships ( there are other pages on the site ) .

The " Dressing Down " referred to may be very cold , clinical and succinct, this is very effective if you can project your voice as many teachers , mothers ( and other actors ) are able to . If you prefer to use more words , try appearing to give the option of talking you out of the spanking , which of course will not be successful . Always remain in control .

Remember to set the scene in other ways by pointing , exhibiting implements , moving a chair into position etc . Men are very visual , let him have a good look at your lap before he goes across it etc ( make a point of smoothing your clothing ) .

The preparation of clothing , either under direction or you can do it whilst he remains still . Use military style commands , ( " UP " , " DOWN " , " BEND OVER " , " ARCH YOUR BACK " etc ) , I have attached a short video clip to illustrate this point .

I would suggest trying variations of the verbal element of your spanking technique until you find the most suitable for both of you . I would keep a distinction between spankings for pleasure and discipline . ........... ( CONTINUED )

A spanking is a little like a theatrical production , see our SPANKING AMBIANCE Page .

Stimulating the bottom by mixing various sensations during a spanking enhances the overall effect . This may be done by changing implements from hard ( wood ) to soft ( leather ) and massage , especially using finger nails or a backscratcher .

Hot and cold sensations are particularly useful as the recipient can not tell the difference between them without other cues . Ice and candle wax is widely used to produce this sensation . ( Be careful where the hot wax goes ! )

Blocking out the recipient's sense of sight and / or sound is another way of concentrating spanking sensations .

The spankee should keep their legs slightly apart , especially in the Over the Knee position , this makes their bottom flatter and exposes more of the inner cheek area . ( Crossing the legs controls the urge to kick the legs but also creates tension within the glutaeuinal muscles in the OTK position . )

It is important that rings are removed , they can damage the skin of both participants . Fingernails should similarly be kept short . Long fingernails and skin can be protected by wearing a leather glove .